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  • Skillet Chicken with White Wine Sauce-Immaculate Conception- December 8

    Happy Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception! Today the Church celebrates the Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception, the solemn dogma defined by Blessed Pope Pius IX in 1854. She is the patroness of the United States of America and this is a holy day of obligation in the United States. Many people confuse the Immaculate Conception to be about Jesus being born without sin. However, this is actually in reference to Mary being born without sin. This Dogma of the faith revealed by God that the Blessed Virgin Mary "in the first instant of her conception, by a singular privilege and grace granted by God, in view of the merits of Jesus Christ, the Saviour of the human race, was preserved exempt from all stain of original sin" (Denz.-Schonm, 2083). Mary was granted the gift of her Immaculate Conception because she was chosen to be the Mother of God. She received the original grace of purity and the final state of the blessed life that we hope to have one day through accepting and living by God's grace. In other words, Mary's Immaculate Conception shows us the perfect and pure relationship that God desires and has in store for us. In honor of the Blessed Mother's purity and sinlessness, we make an all white dinner and because it's a solemnity I do a full table setting. I like to make treats and special dinners on feast days but on solemnities I will do a more elevated table setting to show in our home that this is one of the highest ranking of liturgical days. The Menu 1. White chicken breast 2. White wine sauce 3. White rice 4. Rolls (white in the inside) 5. White wine to drink 6. Salad... green... checked with Mary and she said it was ok to make this exception for the sake of attempting healthy eating. I also like the green leaf connection between Eve and Mary being the "New Eve". The Table Setting White table cloth and napkins White dinnerware White flowers for the dinner table and our home altar. Prep Time: 10 minutes Bake Time: 25 minutes Total Time: 35 minutes Yields: 4-6 servings Meet the Ingredients For the chicken 1 tbsp olive oil 4 boneless skinless chicken breasts (you could also use tenders) salt & pepper garlic powder For the white wine sauce 1 tablespoon unsalted butter 1/2 large ellow onion diced 4 garlic cloves minced Salt & Pepper 1 C. White Wine 1 teaspoon dried thyme 1/2 cup heavy whipping cream Fresh chopped parsley or basil as garnish (optional) Note: I did not do pictures for this one but will add them in the future just in case you feel you need them. Let's Get Started! 1. Heat 1 tbsp olive oil in a large skillet over medium heat, I use a cast iron so this takes about 2 to 3 minutes. 2. While that is heating, season the chicken with salt, pepper and garlic powder. Just give it a little sprinkle, sprinkle! I don't measure for this, just roll with it. 3. Place the chicken in the skillet and cook until golden brown, about 4-5 minutes on each side. I use a kitchen thermometer and wait until it gets almost to 165 degrees. I say almost because the chicken is going to cook a little longer after this in the white wine sauce and nobody likes dried out chicken. 4. Once all your chicken has reached that cooking temperature, remove it from skillet and put it on a plate. 5. Next we will get to the white wine sauce. You do not need to wipe or drain your skillet, just let the excess juice and olive oil stay. 6. Add 1 tbsp butter to skillet and melt over medium-high heat. 7. Toss in 1/2 diced onions and cook for 3 minutes, or until softened. 8. Stir in 4 cloves minced garlic then sprinkle with salt, and pepper; cook for about 30 seconds. 9. Pour in 1 cup white wine and bring to a simmer, stir so as to scrape the bottom of the skillet and mix all together. Cook until half of the wine has reduced, about 5-6 minutes. 10. Sprinkle in 1 tsp thyme and a 1/2 cup half-and-half. 11. Reduce heat to medium- low and put the chicken back in the skillet. Let it simmer until the white wine sauce thickens, this took about 8 or so minutes for mine. 12. Once the sauce has thickened you can garnish with parsley or basil and serve. We really enjoy this dinner and hope that you will to! It's certainly one that we eat more than just at the Immaculate Conception but it's also a great celebratory meal. Did you make this recipe? If so I would love to see it, drop a picture in the comment or send it to me on social media Facebook @HisGirlSunday or Instagram @steffani_hisgirlsunday. For more liturgical living resources check out the blog section of my website or follow me on Facebook to see what Catholic things I am doing to celebrate feast days. Cheers!

  • Houston's Proof for Ritual and Community

    On Saturday night, November 5, 2022, the Houston Astros won the World Series against the Phillies, and this city proved to me what I had already known. First, each and every one of us, whether you call yourself religious or not, is inherently ritualistic. Second, that we in fact do know how to be a strong and bonded community. And third, we can pull together vibrant expressions of joy quite literally over a short span of two days. The Unfulfilled Desire I am immensely proud of our city's baseball team, and while we were more of a basketball family, I appreciate talent, hard work, and sportsmanship in any given arena of athleticism. Yet as elated as I was, I found that a quieter place in my interior life felt sad. And I realized that what initially seemed like melancholy, was truly the disappointment of an unfulfilled desire to see ritual, community, and vibrant joy for Christ in my city. I am uniquely tuned into this city in general through seeking to inspire Catholic culture and tradition on the His Girl Sunday platform, but also through my full-time job as the Director of Liturgical Life. Working right in the center of this city gives me a lens with which I can see the lives of a wide range of demographics from age, to race, to faith, to socioeconomic status. And I daily, weekly, and monthly seek to collect all these individuals across the board to come together and express the goodness and beauty of our faith in Christ. Helping others in person, on the ground, to live the liturgical year is the work of my heart, but is not without its challenges. Inspiring a liturgical and sacramental life is one thing when posting on social media or living within my own home, and it is another type of work to instill this in the larger community. When I saw over 1 million people gather for a parade that came together over a quick weekend, I couldn't help but think to myself, "if only I/we could get this many people to our feast day festivals, Eucharistic processions, or even Mass." Of course, this is not a reflection on the Astros, or to say that they are undeserving, but rather to say that Christ too is worthy of such praise and even more so. Ritualistic by Nature Without knowing it, over a million people in the city of Houston proved what the Church and the wisdom of the Church Fathers have long stated; that we are ritualistic by nature. St. Thomas Aquinas, teaches that it is proper for man to “employ sensible signs in order to signify anything” (Summa Theologiae II–II:85:1). In other words, we communicate through our words, gestures, and actions what we honor. It should be no surprise given our human nature that the ritual action we see within the World Series is so closely related to that with which we express our devotion to God. The crowds wore colors and symbols that are fitting to express a sense of allegiance and respect for the team. They chanted and sang out of praise for their win. Each fan came together as a community to show their love in person as one body and to be present for this monumental occasion. And the fans desired to see the team and to be seen by the team in appreciation for what had been accomplished. Yet, these are not just matters that pertain to baseball, but speak to something greater. Proper attire, song, chant, symbols, colors, community, joy, and the desire to see something special (God in the Eucharist) all speaks of the liturgy. I deeply pray that we can grow to see this intimate connection, and offer all of those actions stated above to God as we do to our sports teams. I long to see the day where there is a parade for Jesus Christ in this city with over a million people in attendance. I will be there with the flaming baton. Meant for Community People could have just celebrated within their home, and perhaps some did, but many decided to put the effort into being together. Within two days an impressive parade took place with many offering their talents in congratulations to the Astros. This only further proves that we were meant for community, and not only are we meant for it, we are at our best when we are together. Unity in belief and praise can be an immensely powerful thing, hence why Christ commands us to keep holy the Sabbath. To go to Mass together in person as a community is the most compelling expression of faith we have. When we are together in person, bonded over shared ideas and belief, we become more human. And in that humanity, we can become more like Christ, sharing in one another’s greatness and refining one another’s weaknesses. It is together that we can best express our gratitude for Christ and for our own lives. This is the heartbeat, of liturgical living, Catholic culture, and tradition. We must re-learn, over and over again, how to come together out of gratitude and love for Christ and our own lives. It is in this lived reality that we see culture and tradition form. Traditions arise when we, as a community, value something enough to see it lived out time and time again. And tradition doesn’t just happen, it takes effort and intentionality. Christ is worth the effort, and you are worth it too. After seeing Catholic schools and churches either close or cancel things to be at this parade, many questions arose within me. Of course, not at their parade attendance, again this is not a commentary on sports team pride, but rather a reflection on the lack of similar fervor for our faith. Why, as Catholic schools and churches do we not cancel or close when Solemnities arise? Why do we not have a much larger attendance, as a community of believers, for our own faith-filled gatherings? Why don’t we have thousands gathered for Eucharistic processions? How can that many attend a parade post Covid, but my community won’t come back to Mass in person? I don’t have answers to these questions, but I felt that they were worth bringing up in hopes that it will spark curiosity. Not a curiosity that will just leave you confused, but rather as something that will help us believers spring into action. Again, what the Astros proved to me was positive, we are ritualistic and communal beings. These are two components that are integral to our participation in the liturgy and then the liturgical life that is to follow. I hope to see the day where Catholics gather in droves out of celebration for our resurrected Lord, to see exuberant Easter parades, lively Eucharistic processions, and feast day gatherings that are bursting with culture and happiness.

  • Mummy Rice Krispies Treats

    Somehow this Fall my husband and I fell into a homemade Rice Krispies Treats craze! We were making them every few weeks because that marshmallow gooeyness was so delicious we just couldn't get enough. I don't think I can ever go back to the store bought version, I wasn't that big of a fan anyway, but this just solidified that. Last week when we went to the store I found orange Rice Krispies cereal and I knew I already had little decorative eyes at home so I decided it would be a fun way to celebrate the season by making mummies. I didn't get creative with the Rice Krispies, I just followed the directions on the box which I have put below for your convenience. Prep Time: 10 minutes Total Time: 30 minutes Yields: 12 servings Gather the Troops! 3 tablespoons butter 5-1/2 cups JET-PUFFED Miniature Marshmallows 6 cups Kellogg's® Rice Krispies® cereal, white or orange White chocolate for melting Decorative eyes In large saucepan melt butter over low heat. Add marshmallows and stir until completely melted. Remove from heat. Add Rice Krispies cereal. Stir until well coated. Using buttered spatula or wax paper evenly press mixture into 13 x 9 x 2-inch pan coated with cooking spray. Allow these to completely cool before drizzling the melted chocolate. Then cut into 2-inch rectangles so they have a mummy shape. Microwave the white chocolate melts in a glass bowl according to the package. For this part you need to move at a steady pace so that the chocolate doesn't begin to harden. Dip your rectangular Rice Krispies treats into the chocolate 1/3 of the way. Lay them on a lined baking sheet to set. Dip a tablespoon into the bowl of melted white chocolates, then hovering over the treats move the spoon side to side. The chocolate should drip off the spoon and make lines across the Rice Krispies treats. There doesn't need to be any uniform pattern, we want it to look messy to get the mummy effect. While the chocolate is still soft, take your decorative eyes and place them on the dipped portion of your treat. Again, they don't need to be perfectly side by side, the crazy eyes make this a little more silly and fun. If you have any eyes leftover you can also sprinkle them on your serving platter for extra Halloween flair. These didn't last very long and they were perfect to hand out to coworkers! They would also be a delightful classroom treat for the kids' friends and their teachers. Each one can be placed in a ziploc bag for ease in passing out. You can make the bags cuter by cutting off the top and tying it closed with Halloween colored ribbon! Did you make this recipe? If so I would love to see it, drop a picture in the comment or send it to me on social media Facebook @HisGirlSunday or Instagram @Steffani_HisGirlSunday. Hope you have a fun and prayerful All Hallows' Eve! God love you, Steffani

  • Peanut Butter Broomsticks

    Today we are putting together a sweet and salty treat that couldn't be easier to prepare. These little witches broomsticks add a pop of character to your Halloween spread without much effort at all. Admittedly they were inspired by my yearly Hocus Pocus viewing and my incredibly busy schedule this year: planning a parish Fall Festival and launching Liturgy Market only a few quick weeks ago. If you have a similarly busy October, this will be right up your alley. Prep Time: 5 minutes Total Time: 5 minutes Yields: As many Reese's Cups as you have purchased! :) What You Need! Small Reese's Peanut Butter Cups Pretzel Sticks Directions Unwrap the small Reese's cups and insert the pretzel stick through the top center. Some may be a bit tough to push the pretzel stick through and if that is the case just let the peanut butter cups sit on the counter for a few minutes. Plate with a little sign that says, "Broomsticks"! If you put these together, tell me about it! I'd love to see your seasonal living so feel free to drop a picture in the comment or send it to me on social media Facebook @HisGirlSunday or Instagram @Steffani_HisGirlSunday. For more liturgical living resources check out the blog section of my website! Praying for you, His Girl Sunday

  • November Quick Links & Resources

    As a short guide and aid to your November liturgical living, I have compiled some quick tips, ideas, and links to bring joy and festivity into your domestic church. This is not a list of every single November feast day, but will be a very good start. Feast days that you will find in this post! 1. All Saints' 2. All Souls' 3. Martinmas 4. St. Elizabeth of Hungary Note: This is not a full list of resources on my blog for feast day celebrations, activities, and recipes in the month of November. Go browse around for saints and feast days that are special to you. Enjoy! 😊 The Month of November is Dedicated to the Holy Souls in Purgatory. Click the graphic below for this Eternal Rest Frame, handmade by especially for Liturgy Market by Rough2Rustic. All Saints' Day (Solemnity) About All Saints' Day is a solemn holy day of the Catholic Church celebrated annually on November 1. The day is dedicated to the saints of the Church, that is, all those who have attained heaven. It should not be confused with All Souls' Day, which is observed on November 2, and is dedicated to those who have died and not yet reached heaven. Although millions, or even billions of people may already be saints, All Saints' Day observances tend to focus on known saints --that is those recognized in the canon of the saints by the Catholic Church. Generally, All Saints' Day is a Catholic Holy Day of Obligation, meaning all Catholics are required to attend Mass on that day, unless they have an excellent excuse, such as serious illness. All Saints' Day was formally started by Pope Boniface IV, who consecrated the Pantheon at Rome to the Virgin Mary and all the Martyrs on May 13 in 609 AD. Boniface IV also established All Souls' Day, which follows All Saints. (Catholic.org) Quick Links 10 Fun Ideas for All Hallows' Eve 16 Ways to Celebrate All Saints Celebrating All Saints in Your Home All Saints' Day Prayer Bless the many parted souls who lived their lives with grace. Bless the saints in heaven, gathered in that special place. May we tell their stories and remember all the ways they lived their faith and spent their days. There is glory and reward, even if at first there’s strife. Oh, blessed saints, you help us see a path that’s to eternal life. May we always hold them dear and know their life and place. May we know their inspiration and aspire to their grace. Food Saint Snacks All Souls' Day About On All Souls’ Day the universal Church prays for all those in purgatory, people who were much like us, whose offense may have been less than ours. By pleading for them, we are inspired to lead purer lives. On that day, and during the entire month of November, we remember our departed brethren as we go to the cemetery where they are buried, attain indulgences for them, give alms, do some good work, ask for Masses to be said in remembrance, all on behalf of those close to us and to others we may have neglected during the year. We also light candles, and in some parishes the faithful display pictures of their deceased loved ones in the church. Church bells are sometimes rung to remind everyone to pray for the poor souls in purgatory. Priests are authorized to say three Masses on this holy, somber day. (Simply Catholic) Quick Links All Souls' Day Traditions All Saints' Day & All Souls' Day Lesson Plans All Souls' Day at Home Eternal Rest Prayer Eternal rest grant unto them , O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Food Catholic Soul Cakes St. Martin of Tours About A conscientious objector who wanted to be a monk; a monk who was maneuvered into being a bishop; a bishop who fought paganism as well as pleaded for mercy to heretics—such was Martin of Tours, one of the most popular of saints and one of the first not to be a martyr. Born of pagan parents in what is now Hungary, and raised in Italy, this son of a veteran was forced at the age of 15 to serve in the army. Martin became a Christian catechumen and was baptized when he was 18. It was said that he lived more like a monk than a soldier. At 23, he refused a war bonus and told his commander: “I have served you as a soldier; now let me serve Christ. Give the bounty to those who are going to fight. But I am a soldier of Christ and it is not lawful for me to fight.” After great difficulties, he was discharged and went to be a disciple of Hilary of Poitiers. He was ordained an exorcist and worked with great zeal against the Arians. Martin became a monk, living first at Milan and later on a small island. When Hilary was restored to his see following his exile, Martin returned to France and established what may have been the first French monastery near Poitiers. He lived there for 10 years, forming his disciples and preaching throughout the countryside. The people of Tours demanded that he become their bishop. Martin was drawn to that city by a ruse—the need of a sick person—and was brought to the church, where he reluctantly allowed himself to be consecrated bishop. Some of the consecrating bishops thought his rumpled appearance and unkempt hair indicated that he was not dignified enough for the office. Along with Saint Ambrose, Martin rejected Bishop Ithacius’s principle of putting heretics to death—as well as the intrusion of the emperor into such matters. He prevailed upon the emperor to spare the life of the heretic Priscillian. For his efforts, Martin was accused of the same heresy, and Priscillian was executed after all. Martin then pleaded for a cessation of the persecution of Priscillian’s followers in Spain. He still felt he could cooperate with Ithacius in other areas, but afterwards his conscience troubled him about this decision. As death approached, Martin’s followers begged him not to leave them. He prayed, “Lord, if your people still need me, I do not refuse the work. Your will be done.” (Franciscan Media) Quick Links Celebrating St. Martin of Tours Feast Day Highlights Happy Martinmas Blessing for the Feast of St. Martin of Tours Lord God, source of all that is good, we praise your holy name on this day in which we celebrate the memory of your faithful servant, Martin of Tours. By the example of his life, renew in us the desire to follow daily in the footsteps of Christ, your Son. Bless this nourishment, which we receive from your bounty. May it strengthen us for your service. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen. Food Roast Goose St. Elizabeth of Hungary About As the daughter of the Hungarian King Andrew II, Elizabeth had the responsibilities of royalty thrust upon her almost as soon as her short life began in 1207. While she was still very young, Elizabeth's father arranged for her to be married to a German nobleman, Ludwig of Thuringia. The plan forced Elizabeth to separate from her parents while still a child. Adding to this sorrow was the murder of Elizabeth's mother Gertrude in 1213, which history ascribes to a conflict between her own German people and the Hungarian nobles. Elizabeth took a solemn view of life and death from that point on, and found consolation in prayer. Both tendencies drew some ire from her royal peers. For a time, beginning in 1221, she was happily married. Ludwig, who had advanced to become one of the rulers of Thuringia, supported Elizabeth's efforts to live out the principles of the Gospel even within the royal court. She met with friars of the nascent Franciscan order during its founder's own lifetime, resolving to use her position as queen to advance their mission of charity. Remarkably, Ludwig agreed with his wife's resolution, and the politically powerful couple embraced a life of remarkable generosity toward the poor. They had three children, two of whom went on to live as as members of the nobility, although one of them –her only son– died relatively young. The third eventually entered religious life and became abbess of a German convent. In 1226, while Ludwig was attending to political affairs in Italy, Elizabeth took charge of distributing aid to victims of disease and flooding that struck Thuringia. She took charge of caring for the afflicted, even when this required giving up the royal family's own clothes and goods. Elizabeth arranged for a hospital to be built, and is said to have provided for the needs of nearly a thousand desperately poor people on a daily basis. The next year, however, would put Elizabeth's faith to the test. Her husband had promised to assist the Holy Roman Emperor Frederick II in the Sixth Crusade, but he died of illness en route to Jerusalem. Devastated by Ludwig's death, Elizabeth vowed never to remarry. Her children were sent away, and relatives heavily pressured her to break the vow. Undeterred, Elizabeth used her remaining money to build another hospital, where she personally attended to the sick almost constantly. Sending away her servants, she joined the Third Order of St. Francis, seeking to emulate the example of its founder as closely as her responsibilities would allow. Near the end of her life, she lived in a small hut and spun her own clothes. Working continually with the severely ill, Elizabeth became sick herself, dying of illness in November of 1231. After she died, miraculous healings soon began to occur at her grave near the hospital, and she was declared a saint only four years later. (CNA) Quick Links Printables and Worksheets for Home Cooking and Crafting Desserts & Decorations St. Elizabeth of Hungary Prayer O God, by whose gift Saint Elizabeth of Hungary recognized and revered Christ in the poor, grant, through her intercession, that we may serve with unfailing charity the needy and those afflicted. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen. (from The Roman Missal) Food Hungarian Braided Bread Happy Feasting! If you used any of these ideas, share with me on Facebook @HisGirlSunday or Instagram @steffani_hisgirlsunday. See you in the Eucharist, Steffani

  • Perfect Pumpkin Puree

    Hey Friends! I have taken a little break from painting heirloom products to go back to sharing some of the fun traditions that we do in our home. We love pumpkin pie in my family and like the rest of the world, all things pumpkin flavored. This particular tradition goes back to the Aquila family, every year the whole family comes together to make pies from scratch on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving! I cannot explain how much fun we all have together dancing, singing, laughing, and making pies together in the kitchen. In addition to this, my family makes this pumpkin puree so that we can have our own pumpkin pie to share at the Friendsgiving gathering that we host. It is very simple so scroll down to see the play by play. Bake Time: 45 minutes Total Time: 55 minutes Yields: 4-6 cups Ingredients 1, 4-6lb pie pumpkin (picture note: we made 3 pumpkins) Let's get started! Preheat your oven to 350 degrees and then prep your pumpkins. Okay I have seen a lot of pumpkin puree recipes that have you cut the pumpkin in half and take out what I call the "innards" before baking. We don't do that, I'm going to make your life very easy! Put your pumpkins on a baking sheet and using a fork poke holes all the way around the pumpkin. When the oven is finished preheating put the pumpkins inside and bake until soft. Depending on the size of your pumpkins this will take anywhere between 35-45 minutes. Take the pumpkins out of the oven and test them to see if they are ready by inserting a fork into the side. If the pumpkin is soft and finished baking the fork will go in easily and without much effort. Now that they are fully baked you are going to pull back the stem. Technically this is called a penduncle and can actually help you determine the quality of the pumpkin. I learned something new today, couldn't help but share. Begin peeling the skin off of the entire pumpkin, again if they are ready the skin will come off easily! For some reason my family got a kick out of the way this bare pumpkin looked when I was finished pealing it. Perfect-Pumpkin-Peeling right there! Next you are going to flip the pumpkin over so that the bottom is now facing up and take off any remaining skin and pull out the blossom end. Grab a spoon and scoop out the seeds and strands! Very quick and easy to do when everything if soft. You could save the pumpkins seeds and roast them for another tasty holiday snack. Alright folks this is what we are left with, a big bowl of pumpkin pulp. You can go ahead and grab your food processor, blender, or food mill to make the puree. Throw the pumpkin into the food processor and put it on high until it is completely smooth. See all these strands around the side? We DO NOT want that, that does not make for a tasty pumpkin pie so if it is still at this stage put the top back on and hit high. Here is a little close up after I hit high again so you can see the before and after difference. Nice and smooth! Here is the finished product from our 3 pie pumpkins! We put half in the refrigerator to use more immediately and the other half in the freezer. You can keep the puree frozen for up to 4 months if stored properly. This is a great way to have that fresh pumpkin taste in your holiday meals and desserts. I hope that you enjoy it as much as we do by making it a fun yearly tradition. Did you make this recipe? If so I would love to see it, drop a picture in the comment or send it to me on social media Facebook @HisGirlSunday or Instagram @steffani_hisgirlsunday. For more liturgical living resources check out the blog section of my website or follow me on Facebook to see what Catholic things I am doing to celebrate feast days. Happy Fall! Steffani

  • All Souls' Day Traditions

    The Church teaches that there is a Communion of Saints, those on earth (the Church Militant), those that are in Purgatory (the Church Suffering), and those that have made it to eternal glory in Heaven (the Church Triumphant). The faithful souls being purified in purgatory are celebrated on November 2nd, but also the entire month of November. On this day we remember and honor them for the lives that they lived in great faithfulness to God so as to make it to Purgatory, and we also pray for them as they are being purified. Revelation 21:27 speaks of Heaven in this way, "...nothing unclean shall enter it." While we might not see the word purgatory in Scripture, we know that it means to purge, or to cleanse, and that this is important to being with Our Lord in the Heavenly Jerusalem. The theological meaning behind this feast day is that upon death, souls depart from the body and are to be cleansed from their venial sins before receiving the beatific vision. The faithful on earth can assist these souls with prayer and sacrifice, especially offering Mass for them. We all have loved ones that have passed away, people that were special to us or left an impact on our lives in one way or another. In honor of those lives, I have listed seven ways that we can not only remember them, but also show that we are still bonded to them as a Communion of Saints. 1. Remember the faithful departed Put up pictures of relatives that have passed away with a small tea light in front of each picture. This way your family can remember to pray for their souls and share fond stories of your passed loved ones. Keep it up all November! I had these "Eternal Rest" frames made as a Liturgy Market exclusive so that you could add a special photo to your home altar. Thank you rough2rustic for doing this for us! On November 1st, 2022, you can click the photo below to purchase, print a picture of your loved one, and hang on your home altar. 2. Make a Memorial Candle Purchase a glass candle from the dollar store and write their names on the outside or you could print their picture and names then tape it on. This is an easy and inexpensive way to honor the souls that we are praying for in our home. These were made with dollar store pillar candles, a printed photo of the beloved deceased, and mod podge. 3. Visit a Cemetery Visit the cemetery of a family member that has passed and pray for their soul. You could also read from scripture, pray a litany of the holy souls, walk around, or bring flowers to freshen up their grave. 4. Pray the Requiem Aeternam This is a traditional prayer for the poor souls in purgatory that you can pray on All Souls Day. My family prays the second half of this prayer every time we say grace over our meals. Prayer Before Meals Bless us, O Lord, and these Thy gifts, which we are about to receive from Thy bounty through Christ, our Lord. Amen. Prayer After Meals We give Thee thanks for all Thy benefits, O Almighty God, who livest and reignest world without end. Amen. May the souls of the faithfully departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen. 5. Learn about the phrase "Memento Mori" This means that we are to remember our own death, not out of a negative sense of fear, but a holy fear as a way of drawing us into a deeper relationship with Christ and virtue. When we meditate on our own death and the death of Christ, we are to remember the victory that was won for us, and live in accordance with that. There are lots of Memento Mori products out there to help remind us of this, check out some of them. 6. Make Soul Cakes During the Middle Ages, peasants and children called "soulers" would go around singing and praying for the souls of the dead. They would go door to door and beg for a soul cake in exchange for praying for that person's deceased family members. The story tells us that if the family did not give them a soul cake, their house would be cursed! This is thought to be the beginnings of what we now know as trick or treating. The Traditional All Hallows' Eve Song for Soul Cakes Soul, Soul, a soul cake! I pray thee, good missus, a soul cake! One for Peter, two for Paul, three for Him what made us all! Soul Cake, soul cake, please good missus, a soul cake. An apple, a pear, a plum, or a cherry, any good thing to make us all merry. One for Peter, two for Paul, & three for Him who made us all. 7. Request for a Mass to be offered for the dead In 1902, Pope Leo XIII in his encyclical Mirae Caritatis beautifully emphasized the connection between the communion of saints with the Mass: “The grace of mutual love among the living, strengthened and increased by the Sacrament of the Eucharist, flows, especially by virtue of the Sacrifice [of the Mass], to all who belong to the communion of saints. For the communion of saints is simply… the mutual sharing of help, atonement, prayers, and benefits among the faithful, those already in the heavenly fatherland, those consigned to the purifying fire, and those still making their pilgrim way here on earth. These all form one city, whose head is Christ, and whose vital principle is love. Faith teaches that although the august Sacrifice can be offered to God alone, it can nevertheless be celebrated in honor of the saints now reigning in heaven with God, who has crowned them, to obtain their intercession for us, and also, according to apostolic tradition, to wash away the stains of those brethren who died in the Lord but without yet being wholly purified.” Remembering you and the special intentions that you hold in your heart today, and I ask that you please pray for me in return. And may the souls of the faithfully departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace, Amen. God love you, Steffani

  • Learning to Truly Prepare for Advent

    I want to share the little journey of how I came to start living Advent in its truest sense, and I hope my experience is an encouragement to you this Advent. Growing up my family was pretty secular, we never celebrated Advent. In fact, as soon as Thanksgiving was over, we jumped right into the joy of Christmas. We busied ourselves for a month with decorating, holiday baking, shopping, and my dad putting lights on everyone’s home in the neighborhood with his cherry picker. It was a fun and exciting time that is full of many wonderful and fond memories, but I also remember a feeling that stands out distinctly. The day after Christmas all of that momentum came to an abrupt stop, and in the blink of an eye all that time came and went without any interior recognition of what we just celebrated. Essentially, we prepared ourselves for the holiday season, but not at all for the birth of Christ. Through the years, with the help of God’s guiding graces I delved further into my Catholic faith and learned about the solemn and reflective season of Advent. These are the four weeks leading up to Christmas. Through my journey of faith I came to see and cherish that as a hopeful Christian, Advent is meant to be a time of prayerful preparation and purifying penance to ready my heart for Christ’s coming. I was so excited to live this, because I didn’t want to feel that twinge of emptiness after Christmas day. I did all the Advent activities that I could and did my best to not worry as much about the hustle and bustle of buying the best gifts and fighting the crowds, but really focusing myself on the birth of our Savior. I did so much Advent “stuff” that when the season ended, my heart still wasn’t ready. It was as if I exchanged all the secular preparation for a lot of Catholic themed activities, only to end up in the same place. I don't want you to fall into the same mix up that I did, and I think it can be very easy to do such given the amount of messages we see during season of Advent that say we need to be "doing" something. I want to speak plainly and share that the only thing you need to do is to slow down, pray, experience some silence in your day, make sacrifices, and perhaps pick one or two Advent activities. Invite your children, husband, and friends to experience these things with you. Through our own imitation of Mary, waiting patiently and prayerfully for the birth of her child, we can more fully experience the elation that is Christmas. This taught me an additional lesson, that Advent is challenging and countercultural. Instead of noise there is silence, instead of celebrating there is waiting, instead of indulging there is penance. Keep in mind that Advent is not only a season that guides us in waiting for Jesus to be born on Christmas day, but for the second coming. We live Advent every single day in the broader scope in that we seek to prepare our hearts, minds, and actions for the day when Christ returns. We want to be ready for this and not caught off guard, or wishing that we had been more intentional. These are same kind of feelings that I had when I had busied myself too much during the season of Advent. The theological correlations are the same, I pray that we can seek to remember them. This year I am approaching this season differently, and I decided to do a couple of small things with great intentionality; I lovingly challenge each of you to do this too! This year I am focusing on more time for silence, less TV, music, social media, checklists, full schedules, etc. and more time to walk with St. Joseph to Bethlehem, befriend Mary in the stable, and to gaze at this little Holy Family with the animals as we await the child that will save us all. Happy start to your Advent, dear friends. God love you, Steffani

  • St. Lucy Customs & the Meaning of Light!

    About Saint Lucy St. Lucy was a consecrated virgin & martyr who was killed in the early church during the worst persecution. Her name means “light” which is appropriate for a woman who was known for the visible glow she had out of her love for her spouse, Christ. She would bring supplies and food to the poor and Christians in the darkness of the catacombs but would wear a wreath of candles so that she could see better. There are so many fun traditions associated with her feast day, many of them involving light, candles, torches, and even bonfires. Popular Traditions Today the eldest daughter is supposed to wake the household with St. Lucia buns, coffee, and treats while wearing a wreath of candles, a white gown, and a red sash symbolizing her baptism and martyrdom. She can also be accompanied by small brothers known as “Star Boys” who wear white gowns and cone shaped hats decorated with stars and carrying a star tipped wand. These are the traditional St. Lucy Buns, also known as Saffron buns, that I make every year! What We Do In my family, we wait to put up the Christmas tree and lights until this weekend. It's a meaningful way to integrate light on the feast day of Lucy whose name means light, but is also a way to express joy on Gaudete Sunday. Our home is filled with Advent and Christmas decor, but it’s been missing the romantic twinkle of lights. Without the lights I have been reminded of the meaning of Advent, the cold dark winter preparation for the coming of Christ. These physical reminders can be so important to our Catholic life, without them we can easily fall into the busyness of December schedules, parties, work, baking, shopping, and the typical hustle and bustle. A Reflection on the Meaning of Light I’ve been thinking more about the lesson of light that we can take away from St. Lucy’s feast day in honor of her own faith. Hearing about her glow reminds me of when I was engaged or what others tell women when they are pregnant, "you’re glowing"! My engagement period was filled with so much anticipation and joy, it very much felt like the season of Advent. I couldn’t hide the love and happiness that I felt even if I wanted to, and then I imagine St. Lucy and the love she had for Jesus. This young girl glowed out of love for Christ whom she consecrated herself to. We see very clearly the physical reminder of her name with the candle lit wreath that she wore when serving others who were hiding in darkness; but she was also a spiritual light to the message of the Gospel. She could see what others could not through her faith, which reminded me of this reference from the ever popular Chronicles of Narnia. In C.S. Lewis’ book Prince Caspian, Lucy has this exchange of faith with Aslan. Her siblings can no longer see him, even in daylight, but she can and she realizes something else, that he is bigger! “Aslan,” said Lucy, “you’re bigger.” “That is because you are older, little one,” answered he. “Not because you are?” “I am not. But every year you grow, you will find me bigger.” We can use St. Lucy and Lucy Pevensie as a way to understand that in the light of faith and truth, Christ will grow to be “bigger”. This innocent exchange is so telling of the fact that as we grow older, get busy, or let other things take priority in life, it's very easy to lose sight of how God plays a part in all that we do. On the feast of St. Lucy and the upcoming joy of Gaudete Sunday, let’s refocus on eyes and our heart on Christ, who will shine on all of our circumstances. Praying for you this Advent as we all seek to prepare a place in our hearts and homes for the coming of Christ. And may St. Lucy intercede for us as we draw nearer to the light of Christ. God love you, Steffani

  • 10 Fun Ideas for All Hallows' Eve

    Last year around this time I was planning an All Hallows' Eve celebration for a Catholic parish and school with over 2,000 people! While my degrees are in Theology and Education I was fortunate enough to learn the trade of event planning and have been able to serve the Catholic community in that way for over 7 years now. I have had more fun than you can imagine as an event planner and I've been able to combine that with my Masters in Theology to provide meaningful family and community celebrations and educational experiences. For the All Hallows' Eve celebration I did an outdoor trunk-or-treat with community prayer, Catholic games, saint costume contests, an outdoor movie, and food trucks. Due to Covid we aren't able to do that this year but it occurred to me, why don't I give you some of the fun resources that I used to do this at home with your own family or a small group of your close friends! I hope you enjoy this resource guide and learn a little bit about the meaning behind this season. The Meaning of Halloween! Halloween translates to All Hallows' Eve, or the eve of all holy men and women. During this time we are called to remember and celebrate the communion of saints, communio sanctorum. This terminology refers to the church militant for those living on earth, the church suffering for those in purgatory, and the church triumphant for those in Heaven. For Catholics, October 31 is supposed to be the celebration and liturgical vigil of All Saints (November 1), which is a solemnity and a holy day of obligation. We honor the Church Triumphant and recall the many great saints that we love and seek to be like. Following that we celebrate those soon to be saints on what is known as All Souls Day. We pray for the suffering church, those in purgatory, and especially our loved ones that have gone before us. All Hallows' Eve & All Saints 1. Catholic Saint Snacks These are adorable ideas from Catholic Icing but here are a few more. St. Bernadette's Firewood (Jumbo Pretzel Sticks) St. Isadore's Pumpkin Patch (Small Candy Pumpkins) St. Francis (Animal Crackers) St. Nicholas (Candy Canes) Our Lady of Mt. Caramel (Caramel Squares) St. Joan of Arc (Flaming Hot Cheetos) St. Lucy (Grapes or Olives for eyes) St. Elizabeth of Hungary (Small Sandwiches) St. Peter or St. Lawrence (Waffle Pretzels) Mary, Mother of God (They have no wine, water bottles) These printable saints from Happy Saints are perfect for cupcake toppers! Photo Credit: Happy Saints 2. Play Guess How Many Following the same food themes you could make a game out of it as well. Put those items in a jar and have your children or your guests guess how many! Photo Credit: Shower of Roses 3. Decorate with the Saints I like to do a mix of decorations but this year I integrated a Saint Shrine as well as a Saint Card Wreath to serve as reminders of the holy men and women that we are striving to be like. You could also hang these adorable All Saints prints from KolbesLittleFlowers! Here is the Etsy link, go check them out. https://etsy.me/3keqvQg 4. Dress Up as Saints or a Symbol of the Faith Pick a saint to learn about during this season and dress up like them. I love St. Rose of Lima so a few years ago I pulled together some things that I had at home and borrowed an altar server robe to look like her for Halloween. I made the veil out of a headband and fabric that I hot glued together! Confession... I dressed up like her for a school function, after I got off work I had to run by a parish that my husband was working at to pick something up. As I was waiting for him an older lady came up to me and began telling me how much she loved the Dominican sisters and how she was taught by them as a young girl. She went on to tell me her fond memories of the sisters and how happy she was to see one around, mind you this parish hardly ever has sisters at it. Y'all, I didn't have the heart to tell her that I wasn't a sister so I just stood there with a stupid smile on my face! Lord help me! Moral of the story, I am the queen of the hot glue gun. Last year I was a bee, my favorite symbol of the faith, which also makes a little cameo in all of my graphics! 5. Make Your Own Saint Shrine I found this PDF template that you can download, color, and cut out. Place your favorite saint card or print in the shrine and add an electric tea light in front of it. http://www.ardanziger.com/2015/10/all-hallows-eve-shrine-templates.html 6. Read a Saint Story One of my favorite things to do is to read about the lives of the saints. Seeing that they could love God and strive for virtue in their own circumstances gives me hope and courage to do the same. For Kids... For Teens... For Adults... 7. Go To Mass All Saints is a solemnity and a holy day of obligation so go to Mass together. If you are social distancing take time to pray the Liturgy of the Hours as a family or pray a rosary. 8. Make a Saint Craft Engaging children in hands on activities can help them learn about and retain information in a more meaningful way. Pick a saint that you are going to learn about and create something together that you can display or play with. Photo Credit: Catholic Icing Photo Credit: Catholic Playground 9. Paint Saint Pumpkins While I suppose you could carve a saint pumpkin, why not have some fun with paint. You could trace an image onto a pumpkin or draw it free hand. Photo Source Unknown Just, wow... guess I should have started working on my pumpkin back in January. 10. Play Saint Games Whether you are having a big party or at home with your own kids these games from Happy Saints look like a lot of fun. Photo Credit: Happy Saints “The only real sadness, the only real failure, the only great tragedy in life, is not to become a saint.” - Leon Bloy Happy Allhallowtide! Steffani

  • Aquila Family Pumpkin Pie

    Pumpkin pie was a Thanksgiving and Christmas delight for me growing up. In fact, it's one of the only pies that I really really enjoy. I may nibble here and there at an apple, pecan, or coconut pie, but everyone in my family knew to save me a couple of slices of pumpkin. Then I met a mister that also really likes pumpkin pie, which I found out on our first Thanksgiving together after he told me that he wasn't going to share. I knew then and there that I better figure out how to make this or the relationship might be doomed. But all is well now, we figured out how to share pie with the help of family and a therapist, we got married, I learned to make pumpkin pie, and became the most skilled hider of pie pieces in the fridge. In true form, we made this pie recipe together and hope that it brings as much family time, laughter, time in the kitchen, and holiday cheer for you as it does for us. Prep Time: 20 minutes Bake Time: 40-50 minutes Yields: 8 servings/ 1 pie Ingredients 1 1/2 cups pumpkin puree (store bought or fresh) Try my homemade pumpkin puree recipe here! https://www.hisgirlsunday.com/post/perfect-pumpkin-puree 3/4 cup packed brown sugar, we substitute with coconut sugar 1 tsp cinnamon 1/2 tsp ginger 1/2 tsp nutmeg 1/2 tsp cloves 3 lightly beaten eggs 1 (6 oz) can of evaporated milk 1 store bought or homemade pie crust Begin by preheating the oven to 400 degrees and let your pie crust sit out on the counter at room temperature. Especially if you are using a store bought pie crust, this will give the dough time to relax. Into a large bowl, scoop out 1 1/2 cups pumpkin puree. Add in 3/4 cup brown sugar, or coconut sugar, into the same bowl with the puree. Then sprinkle in 1 tsp cinnamon, 1/2 tsp ginger, 1/2 tsp nutmeg, and 1/2 tsp cloves. If you are feeling a little extra you can also give it a dash of pumpkin pie spice! Whisk the spices and puree together until it is well combined. Now take your eggs and crack them into a small bowl. Lightly beat them and pour them into the pumpkin puree mix. Pour in 1 (6 oz) can of evaporated milk. This creamy picture looks so good! We whisk everything together by hand but you could also use a hand mixer or immersion blender. Set that aside and roll out your crust into a pie dish. To make this look prettier, I trimmed off the excess around the edges and gently pressed the fork around the rim. Note: Don't throw away the extra dough! Repeat that all the way around and with the extra dough I cut out two small leaves to add to the side. Get as creative as you want with this or just toss it, it's your life and your pie! Pour the mixture into your pie crust. If you want to use a baking spatula to smooth it you can! At this point you can also brush an egg or milk wash on the crust so that it bakes to a golden brown color. I have this fancy little pie crust protector but you could also just cover the crust with a strip of foil. Bake the pie for 40-50 minutes, checking it regularly by using your oven light, not by opening the door. To check if it is done, insert a small knife one inch from the edge and see if it comes out clean. A note about cracks, pie cracks that is... The beauty of a pumpkin pie is that smooth top and the question is how do you get that? Since our recipe has 3 eggs that makes for a thicker filling, which I personally like. It also means that you have to be cautious to not over bake it. When the eggs bake they tighten up and when they have been in the oven for too long they will inevitably begin to tighten unevenly causing the pie to split. In short, over baking the pumpkin pie will cause cracks. You can avoid this by baking on the lower rack, using a thermometer, and practice! The internal temperature of your pie should be between 160-170, but shoot for 160. The eggs in the pie will continue to cook after its been pulled out of the oven so try to account for that. And if in the end it does crack, put a big dollop of cool whip on the top! Now sit back with me and enjoy a slice with a cup of coffee or hot cocoa! PS: I would recommend that you hide a piece in the fridge for later. Did you make this recipe? If so I would love to see it, drop a picture in the comment or send it to me on social media, Facebook @HisGirlSunday or Instagram @steffani_hisgirlsunday. For more liturgical living resources check out the blog section of my website or follow me on Facebook to see what Catholic things I am doing to celebrate feast days.

  • 12 Ways to Pray Like St. Teresa of Avila

    Feast Day: October 15 Patron: Headache Sufferers & Spanish Catholic Writers St. Teresa of Avila is one of the most insufficiently discussed female saints there is, in my personal opinion! She is a triple powerhouse in that she was a beautiful woman, contemplative prayer, and passionate reformer. She was born just a couple of years before the Protestant reformation and died well after the Council of Trent ended. Her dedicated efforts to reform the Church and the Carmelite order for men and women are just one of her many honors, you can read more about that here. Before that, Teresa lived a young person's life that might not be that far from our own: flirting with boys, going to parties, and being overly interested in clothes and materials things. Given her own self-awareness, she wanted to abandon her life of sin and distraction and become more devoted to God, so she joined the Carmelites. And she did this even against the strong discouragement of her father. While there she gave much of her energy to quiet time, mental prayer, serving others, and seeking to make her order and the Church more orthodox amidst the turmoil of the Protestant Reformation. St. Teresa is frequently described by these terms, "beautiful, talented, outgoing, adaptable, affectionate, courageous, and enthusiastic." She was given the title Doctor of the Church along with my confirmation saint, St. Catherine of Siena. One of the reasons I have drawn myself so close to her, and I think other women of a more bold type personality can too, is because at times I have felt that I am "too loud" to be a saint or "too outgoing," and not quiet and demure enough as we often see the saints depicted. Yet her life, example of prayer, and enthusiasm for the Church have been a source of strength for me. I encourage you to look more into her life too, I think she can be a good spiritual friend for all of us women. Through this spiritual master I have learned by means of prayer how to be close to God and live a life in service to others. If you would like to learn more about mental prayer and St. Teresa of Avila I would highly encourage you to read Interior Castle and the Way of Perfection. I would not call these "easy reads" as each line is filled with so much depth, but they are books that bear much fruit by even attempting to give them our attention. Both of these are also available on audio books for those that are juggling many things. All of these practical ideas are taken from her writing, I don't think there is any other saint that presents prayer in the way that she does. It is said that she struggled in prayer for the better part of 18 years, looking at the clock and waiting for her "prayer time" to run up. I too can find myself sitting in prayer and not actually praying, my mind is off on other things or I'm reciting empty words. After reading more from St. Teresa, she would say that this is not actually prayer. However, she does not leave us there, she gives wisdom to lift us up so that we too can truly draw nearer to God. To Do or Consider in Prayer 1. Focus on God when you are praying, and pay attention to what you are saying. "If a person does not think [of] Whom he is addressing, and what he is asking for, and who it is that is asking and of Whom he is asking it, I do not consider that he is praying at all even though he be constantly moving his lips.” (Interior Castle) 2. To not address God while you are thinking of other things. (The Way of Perfection) 3. Talk to Jesus as if He were your husband. "A good wife knows her husband. She understands him, cares for him, and is attentive to him. Similarly, if a soul knows Jesus, understands him, cares about him, and is attentive to him, prayer can be truly meaningful. At the root of prayer is a relationship of love." 4. "St. Teresa warns against reciting the Our Father or attending Mass without thinking about the encounter with Christ. Staying focused in prayer requires effort and discipline; it’s often easier to daydream. But the soul will begin to experience the presence of Jesus in a deeper way when it engages him directly." 5. Seek some solitude in your day. “It is well to seek greater solitude,” she says, “So as to make room for the Lord and allow His Majesty to do His own work in us.” (Way, 31:7) 6. Never forget that God dwells within your little castle (your soul). “If I had understood as I do now that in this little palace of my soul dwelt so great a King, I would not have left Him alone so often.” (Way, 28:11) 7. Humility helps us to lift our hearts to God. “What I have come to understand is that this whole groundwork of prayer is based on humility and that the more a soul lowers itself in prayer the more God raises it up.” (Life 22:11) 8. Don't think so much about your prayer, just show God love. “In order to profit by this path and ascend to the dwelling places we desire, the important thing is not to think much but to love much, and so do whatever best stirs you to love.” (IC 4:1:7) 9. Force yourself, if you have to, to make prayer a habit. “One needs no bodily strength for mental prayer,” she says, “but only love and the formation of a habit.” (Life 7:12) 10. Prayer takes courage. “We must have a determined determination to never give up prayer.” (Way 21:2) 11. Mental prayer is spending time with your greatest friend. “Mental prayer, in my opinion, is nothing else than an intimate sharing between friends; it means taking time frequently to be alone with Him who we know loves us.” (Life 8:7) 12. Integrate fasting into your life beyond Lent. “Prayer and self-indulgence don’t go together.” (Way 4:2) As a bonus, I wanted to direct you to this absolute gem, given to us by St. Teresa, called "The Four Waters of Prayer." Not many people know about it, but she likens contemplative prayer to a garden and water then gives practical explanations for helping us to grow in our prayer life. “Christ and the Woman of Samaria” (detail) by Paolo Veronese Hoping that you have an October full of feasting and fasting that brings celebration to your hearts and homes. I love to see the ways that you are living liturgically so feel free to share that on Facebook @hisgirlsunday or Instagram @steffani_hisgirlsunday. #hisgirlsunday #liturgyhome God love you, Steffani

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